The definition of Teamwork according to WikiPedia is the concept of people working together cooperatively.
“The key elements in the art of working together are how to deal with change, how to deal with conflict, and how to reach our potential…the needs of the team are best met when we meet the needs of individuals persons.” (Max DePree)
Every relationship requires teamwork in order to overcome all of the hurdles the relationship will come up against. The adage you are either with me or against me holds true. Although two people in a relationship will never wholly and completely agree on everything, It’s important to be on the same page for the important things, for example, raising children, finances, & religious beliefs. Not to say that if you don’t agree on these things, that you can’t make it work, but that it can definitely make things more challenging.
Imagine a game of tug-of-war, your strength is only as strong as your weakest link. You need your teammates support and help in order to win the game. It is very unlikely that success will come with only one person putting their efforts into pulling on the rope. The same is true concerning your relationship. If one person believes in more restrained spending and budgeting in the relationship and the other is more “spend-happy,” then this could create some real tension.
I believe there is a compromise in everything; you just have to find it. However, that can be very challenging, but just as teammates on a sports team, the members in the relationship have to learn to work cohesively in order to be successful. If you have an entire football at odds with one another, it’s very unlikely they will win many games, or any for that matter. Teamwork requires: a basic understanding of your teammates, anticipating your teammates actions, being agile if needing to change course of action, support, & effort. A successful team requires 100% from all members. You may say, well I’ve been successful before with people on-board who haven’t given 100%, but ask yourself, how long did the success last or how long did the person who didn’t give 100% last? This principle can be applied to your job, sports teams, or a relationship.
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines success as: favorable or desired outcome.
I believe success in a relationship should be perceived as success by both parties in the relationship in order for it to be considered truly successful.
If you want to become more successful in your relationship and experience real teamwork, please allow me an opportunity to help you define your goals with your partner, so that you can begin planning a more conducive route to achieve both of your goals and desires.
I wish for you a long, harmonious, & plentiful life with your spouse.
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